{"id":3875,"date":"2021-04-26T15:40:02","date_gmt":"2021-04-26T19:40:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/wordpress\/?p=3875"},"modified":"2021-04-27T07:09:05","modified_gmt":"2021-04-27T11:09:05","slug":"fixing-things-survival-mode","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/?p=3875","title":{"rendered":"Fixing Things &#8211; Survival Mode"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Old house renovation expert and HGTV star <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/100044595812102\/posts\/308418637321328\/\" target=\"_blank\">Nicole Curtis<\/a> generally doesn\u2019t pull punches on her social media posts.  She seems \u201cgenuine\u201d and I appreciate that.  She doesn\u2019t post often, which I also appreciate, and when she does it\u2019s usually worth reading.  What follows is the first part of a recent post of hers in which she reflects on herself and her innate need to fix things.  When I read this (and re-read it) it very much resonated with me.  I seem to thrive on crisis.  I certainly don\u2019t go looking for it, but when it comes I handle it.  I just&#8230;handle it.  I don\u2019t buckle.  I don\u2019t break.  I just seem to figure it out.  I fix it.  I take it in, I assess, I analyze, I resolve.  Consider this an in-depth version of my personal motto: \u201cI understand the compounding awesomeness of continually fixing small broken things.\u201d (Shamelessly co-opted from Michael \u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/randsinrepose.com\">Rands<\/a>\u201d Lopp)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>[Only slightly edited for style.]<br><\/em><br>\u201cI\u2019m someone who therapists say is in constant survival mode \u2014one will track my childhood &amp; try to pinpoint it, one will track my genetics, one will track my adult choices. I don\u2019t know what it is, but it\u2019s definitely true. I gravitate towards these houses that have lost their fight because I fix things\u2014 my life makes sense when I can fix things. Some mistake this never-ending fixing as a need to be [in] control. It\u2019s actually the opposite \u2014 I do it so I can let go. Most things are beyond my control, but a house? I got that. I\u2019ve somehow found a group of like-minded friends \u2014 the survivors. We run on adrenaline, we get it done -we look rock solid from the outside, but if you really get to see the inside, we\u2019re those people that hurt for everyone and everything, that search for greater meaning, that pray, that are intensely loyal, take everything to heart and simply keep turning the other cheek.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>My life makes sense when I can fix things.<br><br><\/em><strong>YES!!!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Old house renovation expert and HGTV star Nicole Curtis generally doesn\u2019t pull punches on her social media posts. She seems \u201cgenuine\u201d and I appreciate that. She doesn\u2019t post often, which I also appreciate, and when she does it\u2019s usually worth reading. What follows is the first part of a recent post of hers in which [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3875","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3875","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3875"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3875\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3879,"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3875\/revisions\/3879"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3875"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3875"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/romeyn.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3875"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}